So a couple girlfriends inspired a few of these, and I’ve got to admit… They are frustrating, upsetting, and frankly, quite bullshit.
We’ve seemed to have lowered our standards of what we should expect from our dates, which means that we inevitably value ourselves less.
For example, I shouldn’t feel shocked when I receive a text saying how great of a date we had (if it actually was great).
This is such a small and easy gesture- literally takes 30 seconds to do!
What is very much alive is our own perception that we’re being treated right, when realistically we’re being treated so far from it.
First off, it’s important to know that the very definition of chivalry seems to have changed from past generations.
And these are all things I appreciate and still do appreciate in a relationship.
When my parents used to say something along the lines of, “find yourself a chivalrous man!
” they were referring to the traditional “gentlemanly” type things that women should most certainly expect.
Not to mention, if you truthfully did have a great time, it shouldn’t feel hard at all to say so. It confirms her own thoughts about the date; and simply put, it just feels good.
Modern day chivalry includes: receiving a text back, keeping the date you planned (aka not ditching), calling you at a decent hour and for a decent reason (not 2 am just for sex), giving your face as much attention as they give their phone during a conversation, contacting you first on a dating app (which doesn’t include a dick pic or sexual innuendo), and not getting ghosted.
We shouldn’t be getting so excited over getting a text back!